Getting Started with Pen Pals

Learn how to start your first pen pal relationship and basic etiquette

Perfect Profile Creation Guide

Elements of a Great Profile

  • Genuine Self-Introduction: Show your authentic self without pretense
  • Specific Interests: Share concrete hobbies and interests rather than vague statements
  • Language Goals: Clearly state which language you want to learn or practice
  • Friendly Tone: Write in a warm and approachable manner

Your profile is the first impression you make on potential pen pals. A well-crafted profile helps match you with like-minded people and starts conversations on the right foot.

Writing Your First Letter

First Letter Structure

  1. Greeting: Start with a friendly hello
  2. Introduction: Brief self-introduction (3-4 sentences)
  3. Common Ground: Mention shared interests from their profile
  4. Questions: Ask 2-3 thoughtful questions
  5. Closing: Express excitement about their reply

💡 Pro Tip

Keep your first letter concise but meaningful. Aim for 150-300 words - enough to show interest without overwhelming your pen pal.

Tips for Finding Pen Pals

✅ Do

  • • Look for shared interests
  • • Read profiles carefully
  • • Be patient and open-minded
  • • Start with genuine curiosity

❌ Don't

  • • Send generic messages
  • • Rush into personal topics
  • • Give up after one try
  • • Judge based on location alone

Starting Safely with Lettie

Lettie's Safety Features

  • 5-Letter Rule: Contact exchange only after 5 letters ensures safe getting-to-know period
  • Photo-Free Start: Focus on personality and values, not appearances
  • Report System: Easy reporting and blocking features for your safety
  • Privacy Protection: Your personal information stays private until you're ready

Lettie is designed with your safety in mind. Take advantage of these features to build genuine friendships at your own pace.

Your First Week on Lettie

1

Day 1: Set Up Your Profile

Complete your profile with interests, languages, and a friendly introduction

2

Day 2-3: Browse and Connect

Explore profiles and send 3-5 first letters to potential pen pals

3

Day 4-5: Respond and Engage

Reply to letters you receive and continue promising conversations

4

Day 6-7: Build Momentum

Keep the conversation flowing with thoughtful questions and stories

Ready to Start Your Pen Pal Journey?

Download Lettie and connect with friends around the world

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